Rosemead Kiwanis Club
"Serving the Community Since 1945"
The Fax of Life
A weekly inspiration, courtesy of the Kiwanis Club of Scott's Valley
September 30, 2013 Volume 19, Number 42
(Or: How to Win While You're Losing and Stay Young While You're Growing Old)
(Editor's note: You may be one of those "birthday challenged" folks (meaning you haven't yet had as many birthdays as the rest of us). And you may think that this does message doesn't apply to you. Before you hit the delete button, consider the fact that following these "rules" may keep you younger longer. You will certainly develop habits that will be useful later on. And in the meantime, you can be a voice of encouragement to someone you know who may think their useful days are behind them.)
Some people have the knack of being unhappy, even when they have everything. Others can be happy even when they have nothing. If you are unhappy, it's time to change knacks. These rules are my mother's knacks for knocking out the gremlins that growing older brings. They won't make you younger, but they will make the passing days more pleasant.
Look your troubles in the eye. Problems not faced do not go away. Life is a roller coaster of ups and downs. Anticipate each dip, and prepare for it.
Never say you can't, but do say you won't. Neither be so discouraged that you quit, nor so stubborn you won't stop. Troubles come sooner and last longer for those who wear themselves out.
For whatever you can no longer do, substitute something else. There is nothing more refreshing than a good nap, as long as it's followed by waking up. Find a way to slow down without stopping.
Don't hide. If you want your special needs attended to, you have to make them known. do not be ashamed of your limitations.
Claim your rights and privileges, such as the right to refuse to eat more, the privilege of resting and pacing your activities, the right to assistance, the privilege of cutting back on your work, and so on.
Be humble enough to accept help and proud enough to ask for it. Do not be ashamed to ask for what you need. Accept help graciously.
Always offer a helping hand and a comforting ear. Stay interested in the world around you. Concern for others lightens your own concerns.
Put anger, sadness and regret behind you. It's perfectly OK to feel anger at the pain and distress of growing old. It isn't OK to stay angry. It's perfectly OK to mourn the closing of chapters in your life. It isn't OK to mourn the rest of your life. It's OK to regret all the things you could or should have done differently. It isn't OK not to forgive yourself or others. Don't let your anger today spill over into tomorrow. Look back without regret and forward without dread.
Always look for the bright side. We win or lose by how we interpret and react to everything that happens. Winning is rejoicing in what you have left. Losing is seeing only what you have lost.
Take every day as it comes, and give it all you've got. The thing to be afraid of is not what you fear, but letting the fear keep you from going on.
Enjoy what each day brings. Be open with wonder and excitement to new experiences, even those that come with decline. Enjoy the ride down, even when you know there is no going back up.
Stir up the tiger in your tank. You body will still be the same old jalopy, but life will have more satisfaction.
--- Robert Ronald, American Jesuit Missionary
Kiwanis is a global organization of volunteers dedicated to changing the world, one child and one community at a time. All of its Clubs are independently-run community service groups.
The Kiwanis Club of Scott's Valley normally meets at Bruno's Restaurant in Scott's Valley, CA, on Wednesdays at 7 am (second week of the month at 5:00 pm) - see the Scott's Valley Kiwanis website @ http://svkiwanis.org for details; The Kiwanis Club of Rosemead normally meets on Thursdays at 12:10 in Rosemead, CA - see the Rosemead Kiwanis website @ http://rosemeadkiwanis.org for confirmation and directions. Visitors are welcome to attend meetings of either club anytime.
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